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Mon, Dec. 15th, 2003 11:33 pm
Thoughts on Conflict

Today I met with Casey at Friendly's for ice cream. We discussed a conflict that has arisen between one of her roommates and herself concerning which room each will be staying in in the coming semester. The two have been best friends as long as I have known them, but this conflict seems to threaten to tear them apart.


I often find myself in awe of other people's emotions. Since I was in Sage, I've developed a policy of "It's not worth getting worked up about" about almost everything I encounter in my life. I've been accused of political and social apathy, but I find it works for me. Getting emotional involved in anything is simply not something I do easily or lightly, especially if the emotions involved are, what I will call for the sake of distinction, negative. In my experience there is no social problem so great it cannot be overcome, and there are few problems worth compromising, let alone destroying, a positive relationship with another person for, let alone replacing it with a negative one.

Perhaps I'm just naive about the powerful feeling other people have; perhaps I've some sort of disorder that prevents me from experience the level of emotion other people seem to express so often. If so, I like myself this way. I like not needing to hold grudges and act vindictively when another person commits an imagined or actual sleight toward me. Some people calling it being the bigger man. I call it making less headaches for myself in the future.

Emotions are contagious things. When you express them, they tend to spread. Humans naturally have sympathetic reactions to those around them, at least, in my experience. As such, I strive to share positive emotions and suppress or internalize negative emotions. For this reason, I do not take pleasure in listening to particularly angsty music or reading materials bemoaning the state of the world. No matter what happens, keep moving forward, and don't allow yourself to become hung up on failures or problems. Tomorrow will come; there's nothing you can do about that. What you can do is deal with today's problems today, so that you're ready when tomorrow tosses you a curve ball.


I've decided to use the lj-cut tags to clip out any prolonged statements I make on a particular topic in my LiveJournal. It seems the only polite thing to do now that I'm showing up in other people's Friends pages.

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